I was feeling really good. Molly had recommended a piece of my writing in elust 93 and nothing new was going wrong at home. But my hands were really uncomfortable, as if I’d punched something. Quick trip to the doctors..tendinitis…so no typing. With a new blog this felt like a bit of a disaster, but I figured I was best to do as told. Really I know I should have written a post to explain, but with such a new blog I didn’t know what to say.
My twitter feed has been buzzing recently with discussions about trans-exclusionary feminism. Once upon a time, I studied similar things at University, and this debate has stoked my analytical engine. Unwise as it may be to walk into these shark-infested waters, I want to explain my thinking, not least as a method of clarifying the ideas in my own internal debate.
about trans-exclusionary feminism. Once upon a time, I studied similar things
at University, and this debate has stoked my analytical engine. Unwise as it
may be to walk into these shark-infested waters, I want to explain my thinking,
not least as a method of clarifying the ideas in my own internal debate.
I do subscribe to. That is not to say I disagree with the broad aims of the
dictionary definition of feminism, “to define and advance political, economic,
personal, and social rights for women.” but that I struggle with identifying
with any ill-defined team in society. There is too much scope, too much
opportunity for factionalism and misrepresentation of ideas.
historical and social viewpoint of fighting within the developed world for the
ability to soar in whatever intellectual or employment based field they want,
when this was not the case. I tend to think of them as glass ceiling feminists.
Within the context of their experiences and their fight, I can understand they
do not associate their struggle with that of someone who has an established
social standing as a man and then transitions to female, without losing, in
their perception, status. (In case you’ve been asleep under a bush I’m alluding to Jenni Murray and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie )
when they transitioned, and working in a liberally minded field, being trans
did to a certain extent give a level of kudos. That they have transitioned has
not significantly altered their lives in the areas that these feminists
consider to be their struggle. Maternity rights, pension rights, access to
training has not been an issue for a late onset transitioner. They have not had
physically feminine issues such as feminine cancers and menstruation and
avoidance of pregnancy to deal with, nor have they adopted a traditionally
feminine role within society as a main care-giver in a family. Perhaps this is
the experience trans-exclusionary feminists have in their experience? Yes, they
have struggled with their own identity and in many other ways,-access to
funding and transition health care, familial and friendship acceptance, legal
and societal acceptance, but these are not directly matching the experience of
the majority of cis-gendered women of the same age educational and social
status (et al).
understanding of the difficulties relating to trans individuals and add this
experience to their understanding of feminism. In this sense perhaps feminism
becomes less about personal experiences of being female and of being perceived
to be female and more about all sectors of the community having equal social
and political access as men of privilege? Feminism becomes about the potential
negative experience of the individual due to the perception of others that they
are female: less about your self definition and more about the eye of the
today that are key for people with either female physiognomy or female identification.
Access to sanitary products and appropriate safe places to toilet as a broad
sweep issue is world-wide, from rules on trans-peoples’ bathrooms in schools in
the US, to poor girls in major first world cities lacking sanitary products, to
girls shut away as unclean during the days of their periods, to women raped
when they go out to the fields to defecate. This affects mainly women, so could
be seen as a feminist issue, but equally, I think it would be stupid to think
there are not boys raped in the fields, and non-continent boys unable to attend
school because of a lack of hygiene products around the world.
it is ok to use derogatory terms or sexist humour, to lack of opportunities for
advancement- the traditional glass ceiling elements- that still exist, to the
problems caused by the intersection of working women with societal care needs,
including children and parents, which still falls overwhelmingly on women.
However, men who have to take on this role are also discriminated against. Is a
son taking care of his parents not also the potential butt of discrimination at
work, or the man who has taken a career break to be with his children going to
be seen as having a lack of workplace drive? I am certain a number of female
bosses exist who are derogatory about their male employees for perceived male weaknesses,-jokes about inability to multitask being the first thing that comes to mind.
This is questioned constantly, with the impression from certain female
professionals that men working in care must be paedophiles. Are female carers
questioned in this way? And I am a professional who has given up work to raise
my children. I identify in my brain as a professional, but society sees me as a
stay at home mum. Equally sometimes my carers see the housework as only my
domain, yet I am considerably better qualified at the hands-on teaching of my
children than they are. I hate having to use gender as a way of judging or
explaining these behaviours, but it is used as a defining factor all the time mainly
as a pre-conception.
feminist, but I still shy away from that. It is still a way of separating
people into boxes and simplifying their experiences. I cannot criticise the
role and position of glass ceiling feminists as I did not have to face the
difficulties they did in the society and time frame they lived through. Nor can
I agree with them that trans-people do not suffer from some or all of the same
battles as cis-gendered females who identify as female.
constructed boundaries such as gender and class have less importance and less
visibility for me than the definition of people as individuals. I find the ideas perhaps easier to ignore or discount than some more neuro-typical people, but I
am not going to hold that against them! Equally, just because someone is autistic, this might not be their experience of gender.
their own personal journey from a starting point they did not choose, or
provide reason to deserve. Where I can, given my limited understanding of each
person’s situation, I aim to be a positive influence on their life and their
personal development and happiness. I hope everyone finds a way to be happy in
their own skin and that they are surrounded (not necessarily solely physically)
by people who are kind and empathetic about their experience. I aim to make
positive contributions to the lives of others to help further equality and
social justice regardless of gender, sexuality, colour or beliefs.
other human beings well simply because it is a kind thing to do?
The lovely Tabitha Rayne suggested the #30DayOrgasmFun about a fortnight ago (although I am refusing to count as I have no intention of finishing) as a way of boosting mental health by taking the time to look after yourself in a way that left a smile behind and excellently burnt calories rather than adding them. And on Thursday evening I massively enjoyed @WatchingDistant with @mistress34F and @_Masterseye with their podcast #PlayingOutLive again on the topic of playing with ourselves